Sometimes all you can do is “Believe”

Believe in the power of life. Believe in the power of love. Believe time can heal all wounds. Believe that tomorrow will come and that it will be a new day, a day that will give you (and others) a chance to change.

Belief is what it’s all about, all day, everyday. Your beliefs rule on a subconscious level. And when you want to change something in your life, sometimes all you can do, is “Believe” in the new way, making a conscious choice to change.

I am an empath and connect with others on a deep level, usually with the ability to feel their pain. I experience bodily sensations–so much so that it wigs me out at times!

Over the years, I’ve learned how to navigate my feelings by connecting with others who have already walked the empath “path” and found their footing. And even though I know (and practice often) several different holistic healing modalities and philosophies: The Art of Allowing, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), Jin Shin Jyutsu (JSJ), prayer, Energy Medicine, singing, and meditation, at times, I can still find myself in certain situations that test my resolve for freedom and relief. It is then, that I bring myself back to my beliefs.

Recently, I was “beside myself” when someone related a powerful and gut-wrenching story from their early childhood. I literally broke down in tears (publicly, but in a small group), which is quite unusual for me, and all I could say was, “PAIN (gasp) Why do people cause others so much PAIN”?

Later on, when I got home that night, I became unconsolable. One at a time, I reached for the various healing modalities that I know and practice, yet I couldn’t rest, much less sleep. I prayed, meditated, and finally reached a “giving up” point. I concluded that I would NEVER comprehend why people hurt others–especially children because my mind cannot comprehend whatever their “why” is. My mind doesn’t work the way their mind works. I was not hating the mean-spirited or ignorant person who caused this person pain, but I couldn’t shake the images my mind had created (from hearing the painful story). And as I laid awake in bed, I kept reeling about how damaging the event must have been for that dear one. Also, my mind was blown– I couldn’t conceive of any logical conclusion as to why anyone would willfully inflict such trauma and pain on a child (or anyone for that matter).

The various modalities I practice, typically allow me the freedom to hold a space for myself to relax, breathe, and “allow” myself to feel better, grounded, and emotionally stronger. But, not that night. That night, I felt as though I was “walking through the valley of death.” It was not pretty. It did not feel good.

Thankfully, the next morning’s meditation provided me with the gift of relief. Not a knowing of why, because we could never contain the “why”, but of a knowing that my friend survived her ordeal–somehow. Thank God!

Yes, thank our Limitless, Ever-Living, Filling-All-Space, Creator Source God for the paradigms of belief.

Holding shame, hurt, guilt, sadness, loss, grief, and other painful feelings (typically due to a certain belief) can cause dis-ease in the body. And you can choose to change those beliefs. You can shift your thought patterns. You can find HOPE.

I want to enjoy a long and vibrant life–if nothing else, so I am active and healthy to do lots of fun things with my beautiful granddaughter when we get to spend time together. I bet you also want to feel freedom, joy, and vitality in your body, mind, and spirit. Please believe that you can!

I have shared with several people (via email, phone, online chats, and most recently at Awakening Wellness Center in St. Petersburg, Florida) who have really been at the “end of their rope.” In some cases, I’ve felt very strongly that they may not want to live another day. Through their angst, words, or tears, I felt their isolation and pain. I’ve felt their suffering. And I’ve yearned to help in some way, because We Are All Connected.

To this end, I would love to introduce my friend across the ocean, Lela Starseed.

You see, I know Lela’s story personally (as I edited her book of memoirs last year). And I watched several of Lela’s heartfelt videos, and connected with her via live online video conferencing. I could sense Lela’s complete and genuine love for people and desire to help others ease out of their painful experiences. She can help you put your “victimhood” behind you. She can assist you to find a better way to live! You can feel better! And you can thrive!

Lela Starseed has powerfully transformed her own life, from a painful past that caused her much suffering, to her current state of being a beautiful warm, intelligent light, with a sincere gift of healing to share with you! Lela is an empowered teacher for us all!

Lela is also offering my readers a very special offer, to work with her one-on-one via online video conferencing. Lela’s offer is amazing, as you’ll read next.

Blessings to you my friends, in ALL ways. – Sheila

From Lela:

I am delighted to offer a complimentary healing session to anyone who feels inspired to work with me.

For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Lela Starseed and I have had a very extraordinary and interesting life.

I spent many years experiencing a wide range of different illnesses and didn’t understand why I kept manifesting these illnesses and negative experiences.

After years of soul searching, healing and doing the inner work, I realized I could just eradicate my symptoms by my belief.

When we work together, we see what is needed to clear blocks that you may be experiencing in your life.  We may work with visualizations, meditation, and connect into your body and soul to see what is needed for healing.

Your soul is extremely wise! It is amazing how fast healing can take place! And your body always provides the answers.

It is a sacred time for just you and you alone. And you will be given the space to express whatever needs to be expressed.

Finally, it is always an absolute pleasure for me to witness the healing that can just happen. We have always had the power to heal ourselves, but sometimes we need to be guided back to our source of being.

Please checkout my article “I spent most of my life…”
http://www.lelastarseed.com/i-spent-most-of-my-life

UPDATE: June 18, 2016 Unfortunately, not long after I had published this post, a coworker committed suicide. In an effort to offer some sense of understanding and compassion of her demise, I pray that anyone who is sad, lonely, depressed, in pain, or in any way feels they may be suicidal, please reach out for help. Tomorrow is always another day–and there is hope.

You can always call Silent Unity 24 hours a day, 7 days a week for prayer: 800-669-7729

And the suicide hotline is: 800-273-8255

Many blessings to you all, in ALL ways.

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How to climb the ladder, or get the job you really want!

My friends have asked me many times, “How did you get that job”? I’ve told them some of these things, but maybe not all, so I am beginning a list (I’ll update it) of all my ladder climbing tips.

Also, how can you “play by the rules“, if you don’t know what the rules are?

Like me, you may have read other articles on this topic that have offered “x number of ways to get the job you want” or some other similar titles.

Most of us already know that we must:

  • Know about the job (understand what the new job may entail)
  • Prepare a winning keyword-friendly resume (to get it by the automatic resume robots)
  • Rehearse and visual yourself doing great at the interview (when you get one)

Once you’re at the interview:

  • Dress appropriately and professionally for the interview
  • Ask intelligent and open-ended questions (you also want to interview your potential new boss)
  • Do NOT ask personal questions
  • Do NOT ask about office politics, vacation accrual, or salary
  • If you have notes, or a laptop – open them up and be ready to refer to them or show samples of your work (if asked or if you feel stumped with a question)
  • Smile and show enthusiasm for the role (people hire people they like)

But I’m not going to talk about those old, and well worn topics because you should already know those (if not, google those to find out more).

Here are my tips:

  • Always be on time to work at your current job. If there is a valid reason, state it succinctly. No one wants to hear excuses.
  • If you are going to be late, call, text, and email your boss. Don’t rely on one method of communication to relay this very important information. If you know you are the type of person who is often late or out of office be sure to discuss this with your supervisor up front and determine how he / she would like to be notified.
  • Not showing up for work is a sign of disrespect and people will never respect you, if you display disrespect. I have worked with people who have been fired for not coming in to work.
  • Be on time for meetings. No manager wants to wait around for you to begin his / her meeting. It’s also disrespectful and disruptive to the group when you arrive late to a meeting, especially a weekly meeting, or one that has been pre-arranged and on your calendar.
  • Do critically acclaimed outstanding work at your current job. If you’re the only one at your position then you already know why this tip is key. Build a strong relationship with your boss, and their management (whenever possible). If you work on a team, read the next section about teamwork and why it matters.
  • Always be in learning mode – be the first to know as much as you can about the new software the company is rolling out.
  • Raise your hand – be first to volunteer for special projects, lead a new team, or take the project no one else wants. Many people do not want to speak up or raise their hand first, so if you do, your supervisor will LOVE it! Brownie points? Yes, absolutely! Why not? Don’t listen to any lazy or uncaring people if they tell you otherwise. They aren’t feeding / housing your family! There will come a day when your superior will give you a glowing recommendation or promotion, and that’s your goal (it’s why you’re reading this) right?
  • Always happily accept direction from your boss with a gleam in your eye! Believe it or not, many managers dislike having to “tell you what to do” so, when they come to you with a request, listen attentively, take notes if you need to, ask for clarification if needed, or prioritization if you’re already swamped, but always be eager for something else to do!
  • Work at an accurate reasonable speed – employers understand that you cannot work safely or with quality at break-neck speed, but when something has been designated a high priority you should definitely move with a sense of urgency to complete the task to your best ability.

Why teamwork matters

Back when I was in college, it really irritated me when one or more people on my project team would slack – not do their fair share of the project work. I’d step up and do more because of my super responsible nature so we could get a high grade. I learned early on the true value of teamwork and team-building.

At work when a team forms, I have experienced team dynamics that follow the “forming, storming, norming, and performing” model credited to Bruce Tuckman in 1965. You can visit wikipedia or buy books about it.

First, the boss may assign several disparate people a goal to complete a project. A team forms, but because you don’t know each other, you encounter a period of ice-breaking and posturing. You may not have a choice over who participates on the team.

The more the team comes together to get the project underway, the group will storm – meaning some people will want to lead, cause conflict, be negative, point out potential issues, or demand respect that has yet to be earned. Arguments and miscommunication occur during the storming phase. Members will pick sides. One or more may decide it’s okay to slack. The boss may need to step back in during the storming phase. When they don’t, it can take the team much longer to get their “ducks in a row” (so to speak).

When the energy of the team evens out and any or all bickering subsides, the team will be in the normal phase and stuff will flow easier. The ebb and flow of cooperation will be experienced by all of the teammates. Communication will improve between all members. Team members may even become friends. The boss doesn’t have to step in much because he / she can direct one team member to effectively communicate the request to the team and trust the team will receive the information and act on it appropriately.

When the work is evenly distributed and stuff is getting done in a timely fashion, the team will be in the performing mode. You feel it when you’re in a good rhythm and mutual respect and admiration is occurring. It’s exciting! A performing team is unstoppable! Results will be achieved and the team will exude confidence and pride in their accomplishments.

Unfortunately, some people never quite get the whole teamwork attitude though. You’ll need to have a lot of patience as long as these folks remain on your team. It would benefit everyone on the team, and within the company as well, if they’d learn how much teamwork matters.

When team members support each other, they’ll often graciously provide references to individuals within the group when the time comes for one or more folks to move on to leadership roles within the organization, or to a position with another institution or company. A job reference is the ultimate professional compliment! You’ll need three references for your next job and recruiters only want recent references, not someone you did an outstanding job for five or more years ago.