Words are only as powerful as we allow

In many circles you will hear people say that “words are powerful”, but do you believe it?

If words are powerful, do you know why? Because words carry vibration. Vibrational TONE. The tone sets up something for people, and animals too, that carries your intention forward.

Think of a time when you called out to a loved one, or pet, by name. Maybe they came to you. Their choice. Their free will. But, maybe they didn’t come to you. Or maybe not immediately. Perhaps they chose to stop whatever it was they were doing that you didn’t like. Or, perhaps not!

You call out again. Still, they do not bend to YOUR will, wishes, or desire. You call AGAIN. This time your tone of voice changes, getting more irritated, annoyed, angry, and LOUD. You can’t understand why, with all the energy your transmitting to this person, or pet with your voice, you’re not commanding their attention. You are attempting to control that person or animal with words.

Yet, the only difference in the words is the tone.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to drop whatever I am doing and go to a person who’s yelling at me, especially when I hear them using an angry tone. If however, I sense they are calling for me from a caring heart-centered place, I will go. Especially, since I am an empath.

If, however, I sense the yelling has a concern behind it, such as: “Get out of the way”, “Fire”, or “Help”, then yes, I will likely respond by moving quickly, calling out to others, getting help, or offering assistance.

You can tell someone’s intention by their tone of voice. We almost instinctively perceive that!

The first thing the person who yells a lot must get (understand) is that they do not control anyone.

The commanding shouter may make someone uncomfortable enough that they choose to do something for them / bend to their will (think of a soldier going through boot camp) but, 100% of the time, all day, every day, the person on the receiving end of the shouting / yelling has a choice.

If you are yelling at me, I can choose to do as you desire, or NOT! The world does not revolve around you!

So, why do people feel the need to control others with their words? What is all the damned yelling and shouting about anyway?

Over time, yelling at me just desensitizes me to the shouting. Or, my body becomes so stressed that I leave, and get away from that person – even if it means quitting a job! Loud vocals stress my body, if I choose to internalize those commanding words.

I would simply say, loud vocals stress my body, but that is only true if I’m accepting of them.

For example, if I love a particular rock band, I can go to the concert and love the loud singer! So, again, it’s all in our interpretation or how we perceive the tones, or words.

Children hear, “sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me”. Is this true? Studies show people who are constantly yelled at become negatively conditioned. (The particular study I linked to here says it also depends upon how much credit we give to the person yelling at us, someone in authority, or parent, etc. their words carry more weight!)

Words roared at us, even more so by those we love, either set us up to become aggressive (anger directed outward) or go into our shell, turning anger inward which, turns into depression or resentment. They may get to a point where they no longer pay attention to anyone who yells at them or they cry, become nervous, etc.

Yes, some words hurt, but maybe not for all the reasons we think.

The intention of the person using the word sets the tone. It’s not just the word that hurts.

Words after all, are just words. They are not REAL. They may represent something, but they are abstract and we can choose to define them any which way we want!

Words need to have a shared definition before they really count for anything anyway. Shared definition is very important – for example, you may define the word “fun” very different than I define the word “fun”. Interestingly we may define the words: “hurt”, “fear”, “pain”, etc. very differently based upon our understanding and experience.

When someone speaks light, fun, happy, or encouraging words to us the tone is typically lighter too! We feel it. Think of how your lover speaks to you. Think of how your best friend speaks to you when you’re engaging in fun, giggly, or perhaps deep insightful conversation. Think of how your grandparent or other close relative speaks to you WHEN they are flowing pure love (energy) to you. You feel loved, warm, and cared for as they speak! You know that they love you, their words are soothing and envelope you in love. Ah!

So let’s try a little experiment. As you sit there and read my words, be sure there is nothing else going to make you excited, no drama – ok? Make sure you’re not distracted and that you are relatively calm and peaceful.

As you begin to read the following list of words –  note if any push your buttons. Specifically do they get  you riled up, mad, sad, or other negative emotion. You’re safe. No one is physically going to harm you and you know this. Only check as you read each word slowly if you feel any mental or physical response. Here goes:

  • Confrontation
  • You’re ugly
  • Scream
  • Attack
  • You’re stupid
  • Betrayal
  • Fight
  • You’re bad
  • Struggle
  • Aggravate
  • Shut up
  • Insult
  • Coward
  • Assault

Do you feel anything in your mind or body as you read the words? Can you agree that these are just words. Characters on the screen. If you felt anything in your mind or body do you see where that is because of the way you define the word or link it with a previous experience?

When someone relays a hurtful story do you, do you find yourself wincing or in some other way empathizing with their story? Again, you are not IN their story – no one is attacking you, but often I find that many of us (especially empathic people) in some small way can sense or feel the pain the person went through during their experience. It’s also the reason I won’t watch certain movies. If I don’t feel the pain in my body I may have bad dreams because the movie assaulted my mind.

To take this topic, “Words are only as powerful as we allow” in another direction, what about doctors who tell their patients they only have 6 months to live? Those words hurt in another way.

In my opinion, doctors break the Hippocratic oath when they tell patients they only have x number of weeks or months to live or there’s nothing else they can do. The doctor may not shout at you, so it’s not the volume of the voice (such as yelling) but those words are very heavy to receive. In fact, it has been theorized that a doctor’s end of life time frame prediction could induce an auto-suggestion manifesting as self fulfilling prophecy.

What’s wrong in this scenario is that people ascribe so much weight to the doctor’s words because of the physician’s credentials and so-called authority. The finality of the meaning we ascribe to the time limit of this death sentence (no pun intended) really packs a punch! In fact, I recall several people telling me that when their doctor told them they only had x weeks or months to live they literally felt a “punch in the gut” of their body!

So, do you stop to question if the doctor’s statement is really true before reacting? Do you take a few minutes to engage your cognitive mind, stay calm, and let the doctor know you want a second, or third opinion? Do you seek out many other experts? Or do you take this one doctor’s word for when you will die? I invite you to think about that because the nocebo effect (read Bruce Lipton’s book “Biology of Belief”) is being proven every day. Of course if you challenge those negative words (and some do – thankfully) they prove the opposite and outlive the prescribed time frame and experience spontaneous healing!

I have been studying the placebo (and nocebo effect) that Bruce Lipton, Phd. speaks of for several years. When we got into the “raw and living foods” philosophy of eating back in 2008 we shared meals with many people who rejected their allopathic physician’s “limit on their life span” and took it upon themselves to gain knowledge and allow their bodies to heal naturally. Dr. Lipton still interviews about the placebo effect and how traditional western doctors only get about 15 minutes of education on it in medical school. In my opinion, even if doctors got a whole course on the placebo effect (and nocebo effect) it wouldn’t be enough.

Dr. Alison J. Kay talks about the placebo effect as well. She has studied in the east, Asia and India and thoroughly knows and understands the basis of the placebo effect (using several modalities, including meditation) and it’s relationship basis of subtle energy. (Reference my full article about Dr. Kay’s work here.)

Recently I’ve come upon an interview by Dr. Paul Drouin of http://iquim.org/ along with Dr. Joe Dispenza where they discuss the placebo effect –>> Click here. This also may explain by how so called “false hope” may indeed be helpful to someone. When you look at the science (which is just measured observation) it begins to make sense.

Let me give you some happy and light words and see if now, they change your mood, or if you feel these in your mind or body:

  • Safe
  • Hug
  • Silly
  • Joke
  • Fun
  • Tickle
  • Whisper
  • Smile
  • Love
  • Laugh
  • Winning
  • Cuddle
  • Soft

How do you feel now? Again, just words. Again, just what meaning you attach to these. Did you think of your pets, loved ones, children, etc.?

One of the Pixar short video’s we love is called, “Dug’s Special Mission” from the movie “Up”. In it there’s a line that my husband and I say to each other often when we’re seeking to be understood. It’s always said in fun, and with a light heart. The line is: “Do you understand the words that I am speaking to you now?” It is our belief that the intention and tone used when words are spoken, often say much more than the word chosen implies.

I am a tonal. I read between the lines – a LOT! Sometimes I get it wrong, or maybe not. Maybe people just catch themselves and then clarify what they mean when I question their words, but I am always seeking to understand. Sometimes when I perceive someone speaking in a harsh or brisk tone it takes me awhile to figure out if they intend to be forceful, irritating, or hurtful. Their tone has probably caused me some undue fatigue. I have even been irritated by the tone of someone’s laughter! Has that ever happened to you?

If you are in any kind of pain or dis-ease, let’s try that same word power game. Focus on the pain in your body. Assign the pain a number 1-10 with 10 being the most intense. Now read the following words:

  • Trust myself
  • Kind
  • Hug myself
  • It’s OK
  • Allow
  • Comfort
  • Getting better
  • Peace
  • I’m alive
  • Knowing
  • Healing
  • Power
  • I’m still breathing
  • Pure Joy
  • Blessed
  • Pure Love
  • Light
  • Flow
  • Bliss

Check in with your pain again. Has your number 1-10 come down?

Even if your number only came down one number say, from a 9 to an 8, that’s improvement! If so, this validates and proves to you the power of words. Read them again but this time in the voice of one person (who either now or from your past) who has a voice you love and who always spoke in a nice, sweet, caring tone. Do it now.

Recheck your pain level.

Bottom line: Words only carry the power (vibration and energy) as we allow. The tone in which the words are spoken (either out loud or in our heads), or the authority of those who speak the words – attempts to make the words carry more meaning / power, however we still have a choice whether to buy in to that or not. If we do not buy into people’s authority, the power of their words mean less to us. If we can decipher someone’s intention based upon the tone we can also better choose whether to accept or reject their words.

Peace and love to all.

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Living a blessed, blissful, and happy life in balance

To live a blessed, blissful, joyous, and happy life to me, means living life in balance, in the present moment aware (conscious) of God, Source, Holy Spirit, Energy, Creator, the Divine Presence.

Everyday life causes certain connections to occur. The neighbor who may or may not smile at me and say “good morning” while I am walking my dog first thing, before I’ve gotten ready for work, or maybe before I’ve even had my shower (if it’s on the weekend). The office clerk I may run into when I go to check our mail. The woman in the mad rush in traffic that cut me off and nearly caused an accident. The store cashier who takes, or accepts graciously, the money for purchases. The bag boy or girl who usually offers to help me out to the car with my purchases. The customer service agent who handled my issue perfectly or perhaps, being new on the job got so stressed out couldn’t think clearly to remember how to resolve the issue, leaving me on hold for what seemed like an eternity. The restaurant worker who makes a living serving others. The farmer who is under an immense responsibility to feed millions. The entrepreneur who works tirelessly to bring about the next big thing into our lives. The masterful health practitioner who cares more about helping, encouraging, and educating people on how to get and stay well, versus pushing pharmaceuticals. The television or movie producer who spent countless sleepless nights worrying if anyone would watch their show, only for it to impact millions in an emotional and positive way. The songwriter (like my husband) who longs for the world to hear the heart and care put into their words and music. The soldier (police, firefighter, teacher, or other public servant) who does the right thing to keep us safe, even if it means questioning authority.

We are all connected in so many direct and subtle ways. How can anyone deny it?

My work is not just what I do Monday through Friday each week to earn a paycheck. But it aids in my learning how things work. It often causes me to acknowledge consciously how energy works because I find many contrasts there! LOL

My main and utmost job though is to myself, my inner being, my true nature which is, to work on a spiritual and energetic level. To always focus as Spirit leads me, where I feel the bodily sensation of “God bumps” (thrill bumps, chills, tingles, ripple feelings). I have been becoming aware of when God bumps occur in me, so far it seems I feel these whenever I meet, have a conversation with, or sit in the presence of other beings who on the path of enlightenment. These God bumps are energy resonating within my body. Typically it brings me to the present moment, to be conscious of the fact that I am a spiritual being having an earthly experience.

I seek out (and visit again and again) the people and places, that cause me to feel “God bumps”. I believe I feel these God bumps because I am an empath. I really feel it when I make a soul connection with someone. I also blog (write) about it! Click here for my other articles.

I’ve always held a belief that no one is more worthy of: spiritual enlightenment, fame, huge salary, or any other so-called measure of success – than anyone else. More is going on. I’ve always felt some sort of injustice when I read of the huge salaries and bonuses some people receive, while many others are barely making ends meet. Do some people really work harder, smarter, than the rest of us. Clearly different classes of people have always existed through history. A few who live very well, while many thousands, even millions subsist.

Also, I have prayed for the upliftment of religious leaders who got caught up in scandalous activities. Not that everyone who is a spiritual leader or teacher is perfect, save one I know of, but I hold such leaders to a higher standard – and I think many of us feel that way.

Speaking of the perfect one? The Holy savior, Jesus Christ of Nazareth. My mother taught me of Jesus’ perfection as He was/is God made flesh. I am of the mind that God made Jesus to show us the true way of enlightenment – and how we are all energy.

Jesus did not look upon illness or dis-ease, He saw us in our whole (Holy) state of being. That is so when you study of His many miracles. He asked the lame to “take up thy bed and walk” because the man had to believe he could walk – before he walked! Jesus already knew he could because walking was within the man’s ability. Jesus healed the woman (or helped her to experience her healing) who merely touched His garment because she reached out to Him by faith. Remember the Holy scriptures say Jesus said, “your faith has made you whole”.

Jesus came to show us, teach us, of our inner holy state, (our divinity) – but sadly many people still do not “get it”. That is why He said, “many will come in My name but deny the power thereof”. Power = energy.

Energy separates us from the inanimate objects man creates. We cannot breath life / energy into anything we make. Our babies get their Spirit, energy, breath from God, Divine Source. God breathes and works through us and all living things.

We are all inherently worthy to have our needs met – even our desires. If one person can somehow manage to “earn” a billion dollars, then others must also be capable. If one person is able to feed millions, others must also be able. At least the possibility of attaining our desire is possible. This is why I believe we have a great responsibility. Not only to take care of ourselves so we can help others, but to acknowledge our connectedness. We can attain wonderful health. We can attain wealth – and wealth means different things to different people.

I know some will not receive this so well, because they believe some have more advantages, are stronger, more driven, or smarter than others. I believe all have the ability, even those who are told they have some sort of disability. We are only limited by our thoughts, our imagination. We are limited when we do not understand, do not know, that it’s all energy. We are energy. Every living thing on this planet has energy running through it.

Once at Disney I was asked “what is innovation”? At the time all I could think of was, it’s the entire scope, big picture – larger than any one invention. I wasn’t complete in my answer. Innovation is taking other things, and putting them together in new ways. We are innovations – energy building blocks put together in different ways, we look different and speak different languages, believe different things, but the common thread among us is the foundational component of ENERGY. So in this very magical way – we are all connected and able to help, sustain, and heal each other. We are called to recognize and honor this fundamental knowing.

The reason I love “laying on of hands”, and other healing energy work, is because it honors and places our Creator, Source, God as our supreme healer. I worship God when I pray or in other ways, work to assist others in the health and healing of their bodies. This is why my quest is to learn more about energy healing. Ever on the look out for how I can better assist.

I believe that is my true nature, my calling. Energy is fully functioning omnipresent and omniscient in our being and dis-ease is when we disconnect (for whatever reason) from it. With every breath, God. With every heartbeat God. Pray without ceasing. The best prayer you could ever say is: “Thank You”.

The most wonderful masterful healers I have discovered include (but are not limited to):

Joan Massey (Affordable Acupuncture, South Carolina)

Alison J. Kay (Healer, author, radio show host, coach)

Dr. Laurie Zakresky (Divine Books, Madeira Beach)

Dr. Bauduin at Madeira Beach Center for Natural Medicine

John of God (Lives and works in Brazil – connected through Crystal bed at First Unity Church, St. Petersburg)

My daily mission is: to consistently and joyfully manage the contrast between things that frustrate me, which cause me to ask for improvements in my spiritual yet earthbound experience, and reach for better feeling thoughts, keeping my body at ease, allowing myself to receive the divine blessings God has in store for me (which, Jesus came to show are our birthright).

In other words: To be joyfully aware of LIMITLESS Filling-All-Space Creator in every present moment.

To me, this is the sum total of living a blessed, blissful, joyous, and happy life – everyday no matter what the circumstances.

Always remember we walk by faith. Be conscious every present moment. We walk in the light and are never alone. We are all connected.

Namaste and love,

Sheila

Something I don’t talk about part II or digging deeper

Our move to St Petersburg, Florida allowed me the soul reaching pleasure to meet several new folks and reconnect with old friends. In my research and reading about “connectedness” and “it’s all energy / frequency” I am now beginning to really “get” this concept of “there’s no coincidences.”

A couple weeks ago, after the whole vet experience that I wrote about in my Orlando Examiner blog post with our doggie, Beau, I was led to someone who would open me to yet another level, or layer, of “energy and frequency knowledge.” If I am losing you, don’t worry – it may make sense after you re-read my previous post, Something I don’t talk about. Or you may want to skip this all together. I have been known to lose people in my logic and ramblings. This is more for me to note certain things–and as is the reason for all of my posts– to leave a legacy for my beautiful granddaughter, Jennifer. So here we go.

I was led to Sue (at the first health food store I visited) and she connected me to Linda at the natural food store for animals – who, because I mentioned I do “EFT / “Tapping”, proceeded to introduce me to the store’s owner, and animal wellness author, who’s name was also Sue. This Sue was also VERY into energy, frequency, etc. So, we did an EFT session right then, that day, on the spot! And I felt that spiritual connection, as if someone life changing had entered my experience.

Sue loaned me a book she had on her shelf. That book? Power vs. Force by David R. Hawkins, M.D. Ph.D. Wow! I brought it home and continued to read it as often as I could. To say that this book shifted my world and mind is probably an understatement. Nonlinear dynamics and chaos theory explained. Ah! It’s like breathing math when I read and comprehend this wisdom.

Passages such as, “Can man lift himself by his bootstraps? Why not? All he has to do is increase his buoyancy and he will effortlessly rise to a higher state. Force cannot accomplish that feat. Power not only can, but constantly does.” As well, “Force is experienced through the senses; power can be recognized only through inner awareness.”

I keep talking with others about frequency and how our five senses are just “receiving” frequencies. How do you know that when someone plays the C note on the piano is being heard as the same C note for all? How do you know? Well, over time many people sort of observed by hearing it and agreed that C sounds like C? We do not even have the words to explain what C sounds like, we have to HEAR it. As a group of us listen to that C note, we agree, yes, ah, that is C. Do you see what I mean? haha!

So, with that being said, when someone stubs their toe, they feel it. Or do they? Not everyone FEELS that pain the same way. We know some people have a high tolerance for pain, and others have a low tolerance of pain.

When I SEE someone get hurt, I feel it. Some people have told me that means I am an empath. It’s probably why I cry when I watch movies that are dramatic, really I cannot imagine that I totally related to everything going on that is sad in every movie or TV show. I cry, others do not. I am sensitive in that way. Apparently, not everyone is. I have watched TV shows and movies with other people and they are fine – they are disconnected from the emotions of the characters. I am not. That’s why I can’t watch certain shows or movies, they’re too overwhelming for me.

My eyes and ears interpret something in the frequencies being transmitted on a much deeper level than others. It’s why I knew I could not be a counselor. I knew I would bring my work home with me every day and it would spill over into my home life, affecting my relationships.

So, reading Power vs. Force, I was struck when I read, “the person who has arrived at a habitual state of unconditional Love will experience anything less as unacceptable. As one advances in the evolution of his individual consciousness, the process becomes self-perpetuating and self-correcting, so that self-improvement becomes a way of life.” That explains it! Why I seem to be on this inexhaustible quest for correctness in living / loving / forgiving. Maybe also that is why so many people have come into my life whom I have had to forgive? Another thread to unravel.

I’ve always tended to be a person who perceived injustices to myself and those around me. I thought it was because of my native American ancestry – whereby my grandmother and her people had been persecuted. As well as, experiencing religious persecution. Hmm, but now I read that “…moralistic judgments are merely a function of the viewpoint from which they proceed.” A person who is resonating at a higher level of consciousness views morality very differently than the person who is vibrating in the lower frequencies and that makes a lot of sense to me!

I just told my adult daughter the other day, a snake is not a dog. They are different creatures. If you want a snake as a pet do not expect the snake to behave the same way as if you brought a dog home. They are completely different and they behave differently. You would not apply the same expectations to the snake as you would apply to the dog. Right? So if you marry the man whom you think is soft, warm, and cuddly then over time he shows his true colors, sheds his skin and becomes the snake, ah, now you know – you didn’t really marry the dog, you married the snake! Your expectations could never have been correct, as the dog is not the same as the snake. The man shows his true colors over time (people can only pretend for so long) and if you continue to treat him as the cute, warm, and cuddly dog, do not expect him to change from snake to dog – it doesn’t happen. Your expectations are what must change – or better yet, have no expectations at all.

I think as I continue reading I will have much more to share.

Is anyone reading this? LOL

I’m interested to know how many others are the least bit interested. Are you also searching?

Do you believe as I do that there are no coincidences? Do you believe that we are all connected?

If you do not want to comment, I certainly understand. You can email me directly: takeituponyourself@gmail.com

UPDATE: July 6th, 2014 –> Check out my newest post, We Are All Connected.