Me too. Until now.

“I want all of the girls watching here now to know, that a new day is on the horizon. And when that new day finally dawns, it will be because of a lot of magnificent women, many of whom are right here in this room tonight, and some pretty phenomenal men, fighting hard to make sure that they become the leaders who take us to the time when nobody ever has to say, ‘me too’ again.” Energetically stated by, Oprah Winfrey, when she accepted the 2018 Cecil B. DeMille award during the Golden Globe Awards 2018. #GoldenGlobes

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You know, every time I watch Oprah’s Golden Globe 2018 Cecil B. DeMille’s lifetime achievement award acceptance speech, I become so emotional. I understand that it’s not just because of the words within the so well-crafted speech that connects Oprah (along with us) back to her childhood, or even her captivating and powerful delivery. Yes, her speech builds up to a certain momentum–that’s true. But, Oprah uses this time, so elegantly, to teach us a grand history lesson about Recy Taylor and Rosa Parks. And to emphasize why that lesson is so important.

While I understand that we may not always share the same word definitions, personally, yes, very personally and deep, Oprah’s speech resonates with me. Why? Because I have “been there.”

I have been in too many situations where I have been sexually harassed, intimidated, berated, held back from raises or promotions, mentally and physically abused, and more. And whether through ignorance, immaturity, or low self-esteem (low self worth), on some level, I allowed men (and even a few women) to belittle, bully, manipulate, or coerce me into doing things that—at least at the time—were not in my best interest and made me feel even worse about myself.

Yes, you may think that I am strong. And many times I had to be strong. But I am sensitive, more serious than joyful, and quiet. I studied, prayed, and doggedly pulled myself through it all, (believing always with God’s help—even when I found myself in the most brazen of situations) because I had children to raise. And while I learned, forgave, and mustered through, there were times I faltered. There were times I got angry and stood up for myself and my children. But those times were rare, because it seemed there was always someone else standing near to be critical of my stance, not knowing (how could they?) of all the prior bullshit I had endured.

Only because of where I am now can I say, “Everything resolves to gratitude.

Because now, I get the end game. I’ve glimpsed the Great Beyond that awaits us all, where all of the tiny entanglements between us, all of the reasons, and nearly inconceivable intentions will be revealed!

I understand We Are All Connected, and that we are on a mysterious, yet marvelous journey in this life. That every little thing matters. That love, faith, gratitude, and joy are our rewards, and that we can experience them NOW.

The gratitude I carry with me today having come through all the chaos, does not mean I think it’s okay for abuse or bullying to occur, nor do I think it’s okay for anyone to remain in an abusive relationship. However, I know not everyone in an abusive relationship knows HOW to ask for help, or HOW to get out. I know that they may feel trapped.

More to my point though, is that I believe in hope, even if it’s only a glimmer, or only a fractal.

Take one step forward, then another. Hope. Ask. Share. Trust. Move forward with faith that you can heal, and that you can be free.

As my wise sister-in-law has taught me, “never let anyone steal your joy.” And there is always something to be joyful about, even if it’s only breath!

Live while you’re alive! Do things with people who fascinate you! Dream big!

Focus.

Only you see life through your eyes. Only you can decide what’s right for you.

To those who do not like Oprah, or do not understand her speech, it’s probably because you have not been through hell, or not the kind she spoke about.

I would encourage you to refrain from judging her speech on snippets, pundits remarks, or whatever political motivations you might think she has, etc. because for some people (like me), her speech was so vindicating and liberating that we may never be the same!

I’ve been waiting a lifetime to hear it! And I am not alone. So, please, don’t steal our joy!

Thank you, Oprah!

Here’s to the many who will be empowered to say, “Me too. Until now.”

Be the person your Soul knows you are!

Namaste. OM

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Everything resolves to Gratitude. Everything.

So today’s story (boys and girls), is about Gratitude with a capital G, in ALL circumstances:
A typical scenario
A corporate office type, yet meditative gentleman, drives over an hour each way to work, one afternoon notices a car flashing his lights at him.
Was the following driver a Good Samaritan (an angel) perhaps? Trying to warn our meditative man of something wrong?
As it turns out, after the gentleman arrives at work, he checks his rear tires and finds tread hanging from one of them! He has a spare, but prefers to buy two new tires.
He calls his wife on the phone.
But, his wife informs him that they have “no money in our budget for tires.”
Our main character becomes disgruntled.
Later the this man feels he wasn’t bold enough with his wife.
However, from our vantage point, we can see that neither realized:

A) they should be grateful the man has a job and that he got to work okay (and did not have a tire blowout or cause an accident)
B) the good samaritan or angel warned him about the tire
C) that new tires are cheaper than accident related costs (deductible, time off work, etc)

After a tense dialog with wife about the tires…Man said his wife is under pressure preparing for a Bible study program.
We find that the irony in this story is:
What is the point of Bible study (or any spiritual practice) if we cannot open our eyes to all the blessings afforded to us in the moment they occur?
Caring About How You Feel
Wayne Dyer shares his own personal experiences with forgiveness, inspiration and creativity, and staying in tune with Source Energy while Abraham delivers poignant answers to both Wayne’s and in turn, humanity’s most pressing questions.
Do you have to constantly be aware of your thoughts? I mean they just come and—
No, but you do have to care about how you feel, because if you care about how you feel, when you start down the track that is not in keeping with the Source within you, you’ll feel the emptiness. Emptiness is a good description, because that’s exactly what it is. You have diverged from what Source thinks about a particular subject or situation.
That’s amazing, because years ago when Wayne first got a cell phone, he had to put an outgoing voicemail message on it, and was very heavy into Abraham-Hicks’ work at the time. And so his message said, “This is Wayne Dyer that you’ve reached. And I want to feel good. So if your message is designed to do anything other than that, you’ve reached the wrong number. Perhaps then you want to call Dr. Phil or someone, you know, who wants to hear bad news.” And so it was, that for many years, that was Wayne’s outgoing message on his voicemail–because he always wanted to feel good.
That’s the message that Source has, too.
Right.
Thus, when we’re having thoughts that don’t make us feel good—we’re in a relationship with someone that doesn’t feel good; we’re in a job that doesn’t feel good—is Source Energy going to offer us some experiences that are going to match up to what we are thinking that is feeling bad, feeling horrible?
It isn’t Source that’s giving it to you. There are no lessons being applied.
Well, I mean certain people show up in your life experiences, synchronistic kinds of things.
Things are always working out for you—always.
So, it’s like your gauge to look at your feelings. What does this feel like in my body? And if it doesn’t feel good, instantly go back to whatever thought it is that I’m having that is allowing this to take place? I mean, can we all just always feel good all the time?
The way Abraham likes to explain it is that when you offer a thought about anything, Source, who is always walking with you, thinking with you, living with you, is having a thought about the same thing.
That’s really important to hear.
And when you feel good, your thought is in sync with the way Omnipotent, Omnipresent, Omniscient Source thinks about it. And when you feel bad, you’re off the track of what Source knows about it. And you also have to understand that you are the one who came up with the desire to begin with. You are the one who told Source who-you-are and what you want. In other words, you are the creator of your own reality. Source is the one who holds the vibrational frequency of what you’re asking for.
If that’s a little much to grasp, think of it this way, you envision how you want your life to be, and God puts everything around you, for you to live your life, just as you envision it. However, you often can’t believe that is true, so your lack of Faith, makes that true. You live smaller than you could.

Not to dwell much about the negative thought, but “Do I have an improved option?”

Instead of labeling our thoughts positive and negative, let’s say, improved or not improved.

In other words, it’s the best thought we can find, at the time (as all of this is done “in the moment”).

Depending upon the lens you see life through, it could still be a negative thought, but it might be enough to shift your feelings a bit into the happier place.

So, we have to take negative and positive out of the equation because that causes someone else to want to apply their standards about whether it’s positive or negative, and nobody else can apply their standards.

The only question is, is it an improved thought for me?

I have been saying, “Thank you for helping me make a better choice” for some time when confronted with strangeness, odd or baffling behavior. Ahhh, yes, this takes a bit of practice (or play).

Now, I’ll say, “Thank you for helping me make an improved choice for me.”

Take a walk outside and look at all of the abundance of nature that surrounds you. God created that. And then think to yourself, God created You! As we learned in the Beattitudes, if God clothed the flowers in the field so gloriously, would God not also do the same for you, if you were to but Believe it into being?
It’s not possible for you to desire something that would be detrimental to anyone, and feel good at the same time, because if you set forth an intention like that, you would deviate from the vibration of Source and you would feel the emptiness of it.
So, there is no need to worry that something you may want, would in any way reduce it from someone else (or keep it away from someone else). It is not selfish to desire. It is only selfish to hoard what you have.
Desire, create, and then GIVE out of Gratitude!
So, it really is all about caring about the way you feel, about thinking more deliberately and on point about how you feel. And maintain your FOCUS.
My take aways on this are:
Ask myself, does this thought or statement, unify or divide?
How does it make me feel?
Emotions were given to me by my LIMITLESS, Ever-Living, Filling ALL Space, Creator Source Energy God — do I honor my feelings??
If not, then move toward finding ways to feel better (not worse) about whatever subject I’m thinking about.
Is X of value to me right now?
Abraham or anyone else’s opinion is irrelevent.
It’s only ever and always about, “How does it make me feel”?
Better feeling thoughts about work:
Who’s running the asylum?
Not my Circus, not my monkeys!
Thank you for helping me make a better choice.
I can always choose to be kind.
I can always send them love.
How you feel about yourself, affects others. Walk in Gratitude ALL ways.
And if you ever feel that you’ve messed up, it’s okay. Because in the end, everything resolves to Gratitude. Yes, really, it does.
Thank you.

Be the person your Soul knows you are!

Namaste. OM

What’s sometimes hard to understand about our Connections

I’ve heard a few people say that we’re not all connected. That’s because sometimes it IS hard to understand how bad things happen in the world, if we really are “All Connected”.

They may not want to hear, believe, or know–but We Are All Connected.

We cannot disconnect from our shadow.

If it were a perfect world lonely

So, though it might be difficult to hear or accept sometimes, everything happens for a reason. And there IS value in EVERYTHING. Even if it is seeing what’s wrong, and then choosing to do better–or make a different choice.

You don’t need a clear blue sky everyday of your life to be happy. Embrace the clouds and shadows of yourself, and of those around you–to be happy no matter what!

Accept.

Allow.

Embrace.

Love – without conditions. Nobody’s perfect.

Judge not.

When you have judged, forgive.

Be grateful for all of the lessons.

Move on (if need be).

Learn, choose, and focus again on what “feels good”. Compassion, kindness, heart-centeredness. Be nice.

You CAN choose. You have that power.

About My Blog Name

Take It Upon Yourself is about accepting responsibility for yourself. Your health. Your dreams. Your talents. Your passions and desires. It’s about knowing who YOU are.

Who are you? Have you asked yourself this question? Have you said, “Self, who am I”?

Take a look in the mirror – go ahead, take a good look. Do you know who you are? I realize I may err on being a bit annoying here. But I just wonder how many of us really examine ourselves – and ask ourselves this question. How well do we know our own unique person… mind, body, and soul (or spirit if you’re so inclined to believe in a spiritual self). Each of us have a unique set of fingerprints to remind us that we’re all different, particular, specific individuals.

I’ve been asking myself who I am since turning fifty (50) years of age. I am on a journey of self discovery. I can describe attributes and characteristics of myself, but who am I?

I have discovered that I am Energy, focused in a physical body. I am the sum total of my previous choices and experiences.

I’ve accomplished many things that I never thought I would. I’ve been given everything I have ever wanted. Along the way I did some things I would not do again – but I learned lessons from those experiences. I can’t explain why I did some of the things I did, but I think I had good reasons at the timeI think most people act on the best information they understand at the time.

So, I can’t condemn my former self since I acknowledge that my past choices taught me lessons and turned me into the person I accept as my self today. I believe love is a choice. Life, humility, gratitude, sanity – all are choices.

I have also come to an awareness that beliefs are just thoughts we keep thinking over and over – we always have the power within us to think different (better) thoughts and change ourselves if we don’t like what we see in the mirror. Me? I’m always changing!

So, who am I? LOL

I accept responsibility, fully, for who I am. And I deeply love and accept myself for who I am.

I am a mother, a new grandmother, and wife. I’m a highly responsible individual. I take it upon myself to feel better and make healthy choices everyday. I’m fabulous. 🙂 And I bet you’re fabulous too!

I am more than my mind, body, and soul / spirit. I am the culmination of everything I’ve experienced. And I stand on GREAT shoulders. Strong, loyal, God-loving, parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, and so on.

I have also had great mentors and teachers along the way too! Thankfully, God gave me one in particular who proved the value of higher education to me many years ago (because I couldn’t wait to finish high school and had never wanted to go to college). She proved me wrong. Obtaining two degrees kept me gainfully employed on my career path!

Some of my ancestors were persecuted for their beliefs, religion, and even their race, which knowing this – keeps me grounded and humble. I believe that also is the reason, or at least one reason, why I am an empath. I am strong. A survivor of hurt, pains, and traumas. A survivor of former marriages, of loves lost.

I look in the mirror and see a woman who’s changed – a lot!

I now eat foods that I didn’t eat five (5) years ago. I beat asthma. I’m a creative and technical career woman. I’ve co-written songs (with my talented soul-mate hubby), and tried all sorts of alternative health modalities that most of my family and friends haven’t yet explored. I’ve gained weight, but I’ve lost it too! I consider myself somewhat of a renaissance woman. Forging ahead and leading my daughter and granddaughter down new trails.

Taking it upon myself, I want something better for them, an easier path perhaps, than what I had. And I know a lot of people who feel the same way. They want to give their kids more than they had – not material things exactly – but knowledge!

Knowledge is power. An explored, informed, due diligence done, and educated response to life – wow! Just imagine the time I’ll save them, and maybe some pain too.

I heard it once said that a wise person learns not from experience, but from the experiences of others.

I’d like to go down that road less traveled. So, I invite you to… take it upon yourself.

Imagine who you want to be. Won’t you?